How confident are you? Do you often feel you lack the confidence to do something?
What gives you confidence? The definition of confidence is your belief in your ability to execute a task. When we're first learning a new task, our confidence might be low. As we practice the new task our skills develop and our confidence increases. How often do we practice a task and not take into account that we've improved? In life, it's important to take account of where you are, where you have come from and where you are heading. With regard to confidence, it's important to stop, take account, see how far you have come! It's a real confidence booster!
When I compete in triathlons, my confidence can take a nose dive, if I let it. One way I have discovered to keep my confidence high is to have my confidence resume with me. My confidence resume consists of my answers to a series of questions. The answers become my positive, affirmations...my confidence resume.
I invite you to create your own confidence resume. How would you answer the following questions?
1. What are your strengths?
2. What have others complimented you on?
3. What have you accomplished that you are most proud of?
4. How would you describe your skills to others if you took the most positive stance possible?
5. What can you say about your life that has given you confidence?
6. When you are confident in some area of your life, what does that feel like?
Feel like you've lost confidence? Don't have confidence? I truly believe that
confidence resides in all of us. Choose to be confident. Dig in...find the confidence...even the smallest grain...it's there. It's within YOU...no one can
take your confidence away from you...only YOU can do that!
SO, Head up, shoulders back, chin up...BE confident!
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Monday, February 25, 2008
Your Bucket List
Have you seen the movie, "The Bucket List?" I went to see it after I was giving a seminar and a member made the comment that I should see the movie. At the time of the seminar we were talking making time to do the things we love, but put off because we feel we have no time!
The movie, if you have not seen it, is well worth your time! I won't spill all the beans here...but what I walked away thinking about was, what would I put on a list of things that I want to accomplish before my life is over. Travel, yes, like going to New Zealand or Montana and Wyoming. Trying something that seems too risky and frightful like sky diving? NO. What else, then, would I put on my list? The more I sat with this question, the more I began to realize that for me, it's spending more time with my family...quality time. Having belly laughs with my girlfriends and letting our "hair down," worrying less about getting stuff done and just getting outside and embracing the day. On another note, I'd Go to Manhattan with my husband in a limo, take a horse and buggy ride through Central Park, dine in a really nice restaurant, (like we used to do when we dated...) and then take a walk through the city.
What about you? What's on your list? And...how and when will you make that happen?
Take out a blank piece of paper and begin your list...keep it close and cross off and add to it regularly.
The movie, if you have not seen it, is well worth your time! I won't spill all the beans here...but what I walked away thinking about was, what would I put on a list of things that I want to accomplish before my life is over. Travel, yes, like going to New Zealand or Montana and Wyoming. Trying something that seems too risky and frightful like sky diving? NO. What else, then, would I put on my list? The more I sat with this question, the more I began to realize that for me, it's spending more time with my family...quality time. Having belly laughs with my girlfriends and letting our "hair down," worrying less about getting stuff done and just getting outside and embracing the day. On another note, I'd Go to Manhattan with my husband in a limo, take a horse and buggy ride through Central Park, dine in a really nice restaurant, (like we used to do when we dated...) and then take a walk through the city.
What about you? What's on your list? And...how and when will you make that happen?
Take out a blank piece of paper and begin your list...keep it close and cross off and add to it regularly.
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
It only Takes A Minute
Have you ever thought about how each minute, every minute, a single minute affects your future? It may seem like such a small amount of time and that minutes go by so quickly. But, did you ever think about how one minute quickly adds to ten minutes, to one hour, to one day, to one week, to one month, to one year, etc, etc, etc? Minutes are a big deal! Minutes are the starting point of building your dreams. From a minute well spent comes and hour well spent...the hour well spent creates a day well spent...pretty soon you are looking at a great year and from there...it's a great lifetime. And to think...it all started with a single minute.
We are all given the same sixty seconds in the minute. And, time waits for noone. Tick, tick, tick....once spent they can not be replaced. So, choose to spend your minutes wisely! Time is a constant for us all, the rich, the poor, male, female, young and old. Time...we all have the same amount of it. It's how we choose to spend it
that makes all the difference.
How do you choose to spend your time? Do you use it wisely or do you let it pass on by? Do you fill your time with time-wasters? Or do you fill your time with life? Your success or failure depends on how you choose to spend your time.
There is no time to lose...life does come to an end. Life, unlike a minute, is not countable...who knows how long you are here.
It only takes a minute to change your life. It takes less than a minute to make the choice to spend your time wisely and with purpose. Make this minute count. Make the decision to change and move in a new direction. This is the minute that counts. This is the minute you'll change your life!
Now's the time!
We are all given the same sixty seconds in the minute. And, time waits for noone. Tick, tick, tick....once spent they can not be replaced. So, choose to spend your minutes wisely! Time is a constant for us all, the rich, the poor, male, female, young and old. Time...we all have the same amount of it. It's how we choose to spend it
that makes all the difference.
How do you choose to spend your time? Do you use it wisely or do you let it pass on by? Do you fill your time with time-wasters? Or do you fill your time with life? Your success or failure depends on how you choose to spend your time.
There is no time to lose...life does come to an end. Life, unlike a minute, is not countable...who knows how long you are here.
It only takes a minute to change your life. It takes less than a minute to make the choice to spend your time wisely and with purpose. Make this minute count. Make the decision to change and move in a new direction. This is the minute that counts. This is the minute you'll change your life!
Now's the time!
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
What Would YOU do with $1 Million CONTEST
I was watching "Deal or No Deal" last night. Howie,the host of the show, asked the contestant, "What would you do with one million dollars?" That got me thinking....
what would I do with one million dollars? I had a great time dreaming about what that would be like, what I'd do, how it would impact my life.
Here's an offer I'd like to throw out here. Answer the question, what would you do with a million dollars? Write your response in the comment section of this blog. I'll hold a contest. On January 31st I'll pick one response. That person will receive $150 of coaching. Perhaps you can use it to propel yourself into moving towards a "million dollar life". One that is fun, exciting, fulfilling and has you really lit up!
What do you have to lose? Jump in. 1 Million dollars! Dream big...what will your life be like? How will that amount of money affect you? What have you always wanted to do but haven't because of money? Who would you share it with?
Be a winner...enter the contest...and dream big.
what would I do with one million dollars? I had a great time dreaming about what that would be like, what I'd do, how it would impact my life.
Here's an offer I'd like to throw out here. Answer the question, what would you do with a million dollars? Write your response in the comment section of this blog. I'll hold a contest. On January 31st I'll pick one response. That person will receive $150 of coaching. Perhaps you can use it to propel yourself into moving towards a "million dollar life". One that is fun, exciting, fulfilling and has you really lit up!
What do you have to lose? Jump in. 1 Million dollars! Dream big...what will your life be like? How will that amount of money affect you? What have you always wanted to do but haven't because of money? Who would you share it with?
Be a winner...enter the contest...and dream big.
Monday, January 7, 2008
Resolutions or Intentions?
It's that time of year...time to make the New Year's Resolution. Do you have one? I have been listening to people say, "Yes, I made a resolution...but I never keep it." Makes me wonder if just the word, resolution means to wish for something, or put some effort in and when it does not materialize quickly enough...out the window it goes.
I am part of a Spirituality Group at my church. This week's topic of discussion will be Resolutions. One member of the group said, let's rename the topic, Intentions.
Intentions give us a new perspective on resolutions. What intentions will you set for this year? What intentions do you have for today?
So what does it take to keep your resolution or to have clear goals or intentions? I recently read that the American Society for Training and Development gathered these statistics of the likelihood of a person completing a goal breaks:
Hear an idea = 10%
Consciously decide to adopt an idea = 25%
Decide when they will do it = 40%
Plan how they will do it = 50%
Commit to someone else that they'll do it = 65%
And when they have a specific accountability appointment with the person they have committed to = 95% actually complete the goal.
My intention for 2008 is to help as many people as I can to create goals that excite and motivate them which will allow them to live a life that is rich, fulfilling and on fire!
What about you? Do you know what your intentions are for 2008? Do you know what you want in your life? Consciously decide to adopt an intention, an idea...decide when you will do it, develop a plan and commit to telling someone of your intentions. Next, have someone hold you accountable to what you say you will do.
It's your life...live it to the fullest! Don't put off doing the things you love...NOW is the time to act. If not now, when? You have a whole year ahead of you.
I've told you my intention for 2008...how can I help you with yours?
I am part of a Spirituality Group at my church. This week's topic of discussion will be Resolutions. One member of the group said, let's rename the topic, Intentions.
Intentions give us a new perspective on resolutions. What intentions will you set for this year? What intentions do you have for today?
So what does it take to keep your resolution or to have clear goals or intentions? I recently read that the American Society for Training and Development gathered these statistics of the likelihood of a person completing a goal breaks:
Hear an idea = 10%
Consciously decide to adopt an idea = 25%
Decide when they will do it = 40%
Plan how they will do it = 50%
Commit to someone else that they'll do it = 65%
And when they have a specific accountability appointment with the person they have committed to = 95% actually complete the goal.
My intention for 2008 is to help as many people as I can to create goals that excite and motivate them which will allow them to live a life that is rich, fulfilling and on fire!
What about you? Do you know what your intentions are for 2008? Do you know what you want in your life? Consciously decide to adopt an intention, an idea...decide when you will do it, develop a plan and commit to telling someone of your intentions. Next, have someone hold you accountable to what you say you will do.
It's your life...live it to the fullest! Don't put off doing the things you love...NOW is the time to act. If not now, when? You have a whole year ahead of you.
I've told you my intention for 2008...how can I help you with yours?
Friday, December 14, 2007
Personal Values
Understanding and getting clear about your personal values is something I spend a lot of time on with my clients. Values are what guide us. When we live according to our values we feel alive, we feel life is good! When we are not honoring our values, we feel uneasy and yucky. Most of my clients have never taken the time to discover their values. Once you discover your values and make decisions to honor them, you will see a shift in the quality of your life.
Here's an exercise that I recently found that is a great way to uncover your values. (Unfortunately, I can not give credit where the credit is due, as I don't recall where I read it.)
Think of someone you admire, it can be a family member, someone from history, or a sport figure, etc. Now, write down ten things you admire about this person. For example, I admired my father in law. So, I might write, "He never allowed obstacles to get into his way."
After you compile your list, change the he/she to "I". So, I would write, "I never allow obstacles to get into my way."
See what this does? Can you take them in as your values? These qualities are also within you.
Perhaps you have not honored them as fully as is possible. So, now the challenge!! How can you start living those values more fully in your every day? For me, it's being aware of the obstacles that come my way, and just continuing to move around, over, or through them! I have a strong personal value of challenge! The challenge to overcome whatever comes my way.
Here's an exercise that I recently found that is a great way to uncover your values. (Unfortunately, I can not give credit where the credit is due, as I don't recall where I read it.)
Think of someone you admire, it can be a family member, someone from history, or a sport figure, etc. Now, write down ten things you admire about this person. For example, I admired my father in law. So, I might write, "He never allowed obstacles to get into his way."
After you compile your list, change the he/she to "I". So, I would write, "I never allow obstacles to get into my way."
See what this does? Can you take them in as your values? These qualities are also within you.
Perhaps you have not honored them as fully as is possible. So, now the challenge!! How can you start living those values more fully in your every day? For me, it's being aware of the obstacles that come my way, and just continuing to move around, over, or through them! I have a strong personal value of challenge! The challenge to overcome whatever comes my way.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
You Are What you Think
"Whatever thoughts you plant in your subconscious mind
and nourish every day with conviction and emotion will
one day become a reality.
Constant repetition carries conviction.
Repeat something often enough and it
will start to become you.
A change in what you tell yourself will result in a
change in your behavior.
What you impress upon your mind, you'll inevitable become.
You are what you think."
I recently received this quote from The Daily Guru (www.thedailyguru.com).
Just as we are what we eat, we are what we think. When we fill our bodies
with healthy, whole, nourishing food we are fueling our bodies to enable us to
live a full healthy life. When we fill our minds with positive thoughts we fuel our minds to inform our bodies and our soul that enables us to become our best.
We all have the inner critic that fills our minds with "I can't", "You're not good
enough", "Don't even bother," or "Just quit." That negative inner critic often gets louder as we begin to make changes to our lives. That inner critic resists change and wants us to stay right where we are. This increase in negative chatter can cause us to feel we're in the midst of chaos. The negative voice is so loud! Clients often ask me, "How do I quiet that voice?" or "How do I NOT listen to it?"
It's all about choice. You can choose to listen to the negative chatter or you can choose to do something about it. If you choose to continue to listen to the chatter, where will that take you? What's the impact on your life?
If you choose to do something about it, here are steps to Quiet Your Inner Critic.
1. Gain awareness. Notice when you hear that negative voice.
*When are feel criticized
*If you make a mistake
*Situations where you risk failing
*Situations where you are challenging yourself
*Times when you feel hurt
*Times when you are making changes
2. Gather your awareness. For one week, become aware as possible of the negative statements that you hear. Keep a log using three columns:
1. Time of day
2. Negative statement
3. Positive reconstruction*
3. For each negative statement write down a positive reconstruction of the sentence.
a. For example: "I can't do it" becomes "I can try"
"I am not (Fill in the blank)" becomes "I am becoming (BLANK)"
b. Eventually your "becoming" statements will turn to "I AM" statements!
Take the advice from the quote above, whatever you plant in your mind will become a reality.
Repeat it often, and it will become you.
Go out and fill your mind, your body and your soul with positive and nourishing fuel. You are what you think! What are your thoughts about yourself? Make those changes today! It's time.
and nourish every day with conviction and emotion will
one day become a reality.
Constant repetition carries conviction.
Repeat something often enough and it
will start to become you.
A change in what you tell yourself will result in a
change in your behavior.
What you impress upon your mind, you'll inevitable become.
You are what you think."
I recently received this quote from The Daily Guru (www.thedailyguru.com).
Just as we are what we eat, we are what we think. When we fill our bodies
with healthy, whole, nourishing food we are fueling our bodies to enable us to
live a full healthy life. When we fill our minds with positive thoughts we fuel our minds to inform our bodies and our soul that enables us to become our best.
We all have the inner critic that fills our minds with "I can't", "You're not good
enough", "Don't even bother," or "Just quit." That negative inner critic often gets louder as we begin to make changes to our lives. That inner critic resists change and wants us to stay right where we are. This increase in negative chatter can cause us to feel we're in the midst of chaos. The negative voice is so loud! Clients often ask me, "How do I quiet that voice?" or "How do I NOT listen to it?"
It's all about choice. You can choose to listen to the negative chatter or you can choose to do something about it. If you choose to continue to listen to the chatter, where will that take you? What's the impact on your life?
If you choose to do something about it, here are steps to Quiet Your Inner Critic.
1. Gain awareness. Notice when you hear that negative voice.
*When are feel criticized
*If you make a mistake
*Situations where you risk failing
*Situations where you are challenging yourself
*Times when you feel hurt
*Times when you are making changes
2. Gather your awareness. For one week, become aware as possible of the negative statements that you hear. Keep a log using three columns:
1. Time of day
2. Negative statement
3. Positive reconstruction*
3. For each negative statement write down a positive reconstruction of the sentence.
a. For example: "I can't do it" becomes "I can try"
"I am not (Fill in the blank)" becomes "I am becoming (BLANK)"
b. Eventually your "becoming" statements will turn to "I AM" statements!
Take the advice from the quote above, whatever you plant in your mind will become a reality.
Repeat it often, and it will become you.
Go out and fill your mind, your body and your soul with positive and nourishing fuel. You are what you think! What are your thoughts about yourself? Make those changes today! It's time.
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